“The Future Generation: The Zine-Book for Subculture Parents, Kids, Friends and Others” by China Martens is the only parenting book I’ve highlighted, circled and followed as best as I can (above is my copy and you can tell it’s been well loved). It’s a compilation of all China’s best writing on parenting and motherhood throughout her daughter’s life. She writes about anarchist child raising, sex and violence, discipline, self-expression, welfare mothers, the ocean and many other things. IT’S SO GOOD. If you are a parent, or will be in the future maybe, or if you parents or even if you know kids, it’s definitely worth reading. You don’t have to be an anarchist or punk or counter-culture to relate to it.
It’s been 10 years since this book was published and Ms. Martens is working on getting a 2nd edition, 10th anniversary special out into the world, for people who haven’t had the pleasure of reading it yet. It’s currently out of print. If you’d like to support her kickstarter campaign, you can do that here, but HURRY because time is running out hella fast.
“I want my child to be free to blossom into who she is, but what if she is too free for this world? Will society break her faster than those who can secret and control their desires better? Will she have problems controlling herself? Will she fight like a boy? Will she become a “brat” like some hippie kids I’ve seen and heard about?
“I don’t know. These are real fears, I’m departing from the known path and from how I was raised. But I’m not an unreasonable person, I must give her the respect and freedom I would want for myself. So society doesn’t quite understand why I’m still nursing her, or this or that. All I can do is give my best and have faith in her to figure out her own solutions for her own times…. And as I respond to the physicalness of this child, reflecting back her needs as valid, real, letting her be herself, and trying not to let it worry me– for it just might be her need to be crying, taking chances, doing things I wouldn’t (she’ll learn her lessons: nature is not without discipline)– while playing the role of protector, nurturer, and trying to exist in this relationship, to have some of me and my stuff too– I see how very physical this all is. And physical is the dangerous and ultimate object of revolution. Of course it’s mental, spiritual too, but we need the Bread and Butter– The Land”.
If you’d like find out more about China Martens and the work she is doing for parents everywhere, I’ve put a few extra links below.