I’m a newlywed and I proudly wear my dream ring and wedding band every day. It is white gold with 1 carat of diamonds and reminds me of flower crowns and the roses my husband gave me on our first Valentine’s Day. The wedding band has even more diamonds. No taking them off for anything, except to get it cleaned every six months. My husband tells me I should take them off at night or when I do certain things but I always scoff at him. I enjoy being married, I enjoy my ring and to be perfectly honest, I feel more respected as a black woman and mom with my rings on. I feel like people aren’t judging me nearly as harshly.
Sadly today I woke up to an itchy swollen ring finger. My ring was digging into my skin and causing me tremendous amounts of pain. I tried soap, vegetable oil, lube, dental floss and various other youtube ideas to get it off to no avail. So I scooped up my tired hungry kids and headed to the fire department to see if they could help.
Firefighters are extremely helpful and nice, and they said they would happily cut it off, but suggested I go to my jeweler first because they could see how much the ring meant to me and didn’t want to ruin something so expensive.
All of this was before 9am. My ring finger was stinging and uncomfortable and my kids were hot and hungry. The jewelery store at the mall didn’t open until 10am too. By this time, I was extremely upset. And then the jeweler said they don’t cut rings off.
Going to the regular ER alone and having to wait hours and hours to be seen by a doctor is exhausting and frustrating. I went with two small children. It was completely awful, my finger hurt and my wedding ring was going to be cut off. I did not cry but I wanted to.
So now my sliced rings are in a plastic biohazard bag from the hospital. My finger feels naked and sore.
I don’t like this at all. My husband and I sometimes talk about how among our married friends we are the one of the few couples who consistently wear their wedding rings every day. Prince William has never worn a wedding ring. Beyonce and many other famous women don’t always wear their rings either. I’m sure their marriages are fine. But that isn’t for me. I don’t feel like myself without my rings and I didn’t realize I’d be this upset to not have them on.
Once my finger heals and my skin grows back I’ll have my rings repaired and resized. Both my jeweler and the hospital assured me that this an easy fix and very common. It doesn’t make it suck any less though. This has been quite the day.